When it
comes to pain, suffering, and grief, the most important gift we experience is
the love and presence of others. It is
not their words, usually. In fact, often
words simply get in the way. It is the
presence, the compassion, and the tears others shed for us.
This
past Sunday was All Saints Day, a day in which we remember and give thanks for,
as we say, “those who have gone before us.”
But their going is not really “away.”
They go to form a circle around us.
In the words of the book of Hebrews: “we are
surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses.” [12:1]. That surrounding includes, again in a
traditional phrase, “the living and the dead.”
In my last blog entry I described how, after the
deaths of both of my parents, four families in my hometown offered to take us
into their families. Prior to that, as
my Mom way dying, family after family had invited my younger brother, Alan, and
me over for dinner. Both the community
of Maddock and the members of North Viking Lutheran Church surrounded us with
their love and presence.
As I mentioned in my blog entry of August 12,
2015, my Dad died shortly after I had returned from spending the summer working
as a Counselor at Red Willow Bible Camp in Binford, North Dakota. Dad’s funeral was on August 16, three days
before his 54th birthday.
The way our sanctuary was set up for funerals,
the family entered the sanctuary from a side door near the right front of the
altar area. I had picked our entrance
hymn, “Praise to the Lord, the Almighty, the King of Creation.” We walked into the sanctuary as the
congregation sang it. I sang along, but
looked down at the floor as we processed in, unable to bring myself to meet the
eyes of the congregation. We took our seats in the front pew, turned towards the
altar, and continued singing.
Now, Maddock was known to be a musical town. Not
only did we have good choirs in church and in school, but we also had community
cantatas from time to time.
However, that day, the singing of the entrance
hymn seemed more powerful than ever. I
felt like I was being surrounded with love and lifted into the heavens. Finally, I just had to look back to see this
congregation of people singing from their hearts.
To my surprise, there, scattered throughout
the congregation, were nearly every member of the Bible camp staff I had been a
part of, some forty-strong, in their green corduroy staff jackets, with tears
in their eyes, singing with heavenly gusto. I had no idea they were coming to the funeral.
Then I understood, in a way I have never
forgotten, what it means to be surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses.
I am the fifth from the left in the back row. Many in this picture are friends to this day. |
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